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Baby Girl Clothing Size for 9-10 mo. old? I am due to deliver my first daughter in about 6 weeks. We have a huge family vacation planned for next June (June of 2011) and I am looking to buy her clothes on clearance right now so I don't have to pay full price for them next year. All of my sons have been smaller babies - in the 7 lb. range and have fit into their designated clothing size. Next June she will be 9-10 months old. Would you buy clothes size 6-12 months or 12-18 months? I just don't want them to be too small or too gigantic! I know it depends on her, but if you were doing this yourself what would you do? FYI - I am shopping on Old Navy.com, and their sizes are 6-12 months and 12-18 months. Weird, right? If it were 9-12 months I wouldn't be so hesitant. I think I agree with those that have said buy a little of each... and I think I'm going to wait another 1-2 weeks for the prices to drop down even further.

how would you feel if your mother-in-law bought your baby girl, a bunch of boy clothes? my mother-in-law and i have never been fond of each other. as a matter of fact, when i got pregnant, she lied and said that i told her the baby was not her son's baby, which was totally untrue. then she goes out and buys a bunch of boy clothes for her and let me know they were all on clearance, that nothing was over $2. would this offend anyone besides me? thanks for answers.

am I being a sneaky spouse? I am currently six months pregnant with a baby girl. My husband has 3 young boys by his first wife. So we have some baby clothes from his kids. We are moving really soon and the money is kind of hard to come by these days. Here is the thing I have bought a few baby girl clothes. All the clothes were on clearance between 3.00-5.00 each the total is about $60. I did not purchase the clothing at once this is spread over a two month period. I put all of our daughter clothes in the back of his boys closet. Please keep in mind that all of the boys clothing is from 6 months up to 36 months. All of the clothing that I bought was under 6 months. He states that I bought the clothing way too soon. Now that I am in need of maternity clothes he says I should have used the money that I bought he baby clothing with. He has stated from the moment we found out we were having a girl she will be wearing her brothers clothes. He says that by putting the girls clothes in the back of the closet that I was being sneaky. The thing of it is that I think it is unfair for this little girl to wear boys clothes. I know that I did not have a lot of money so I bought a few items at a time over a period of time. Was I really being sneaky? Should I have just let my little girl wear the too big boys clothes to stratify my husband?

Are you obsessed with buying your baby clothes? I didn't know what having a girl would do to me lol. It's so so fun shopping for her and dressing her up. To my credit, almost everything I buy her is either on clearance or really cheap to begin with. A lot of what I've gotten have been from garage sales that were new or gently used and nothing for over a dollar and it's all name brand- Gap, Old Navy, Childrens Place, Gymboree etc. I get so many compliments on her clothes and people can't believe when I tell them it was fifty cents :) I just love dressing my baby up. I on the other hand look like a bum most of the time lol

Are you addicted to buying stuff for your baby? I am a new mother of a beautiful 7 mth old baby girl. During these tough times everyone is scaling back, but I can't seem to stop! When we go shopping, I'd rather buy things for my daughter rather than myself. The majority of things are her clothes both practical and unpractical. But I am addicted to buying her clothes although, I do ONLY BUY STUFF on SALE/CLEARANCE. I shop everywhere from Walmart, target, babygap, gymboree,nordstrom to Neimans. I keep making excuses because they are so adorable and inexpensive I can't seem to resist, but $5 here and $40 there does add up a lot in the long run. I tell myself we could re-use them for our next babies as we plan to have more. Anyone feel the same way?

American Girl Bitty Twins, size? My daughter will be getting a set for Christmas and I am wondering about their size. I know that they are 15 inches long. Does anyone know if premie baby clothes will fit them? I can buy them on clearance a whole lot cheaper than the clothes made for the dolls and have a much bigger variety of clothes for them. If you have a set of the dolls, could you give me the measurements, please? I haven't gotten ours in yet. TIA.

What Can I do till October? and some other questions.? I am so happy, my brother and his girlfriend just told my parents that they are expecting their first baby due October 1. I already am an aunt to a 10 year old, but I am so excited to get a new niece or nephew. Can you answer some questions I have? -When can they tell if the baby is a boy or girl? -What can I do till October? and what are somethings to help the time pass? -What are some nice little things I can start to get for the baby before I know it's sex? -Where are some places I can look online at baby clothes and toys? -What are some things I can get for the baby when I do know it's sex? -What store have good clearance sales on baby clothes? -What are some cheap things the baby will need? -What can I do help prepare the grandparents house for the baby? I know that you can get nice outdoor toys such as play houses at garage sales,but when the baby is born it will be October so it won't really be going outside till spring. I mainly interested in things that I can use inside, but what are some toy's for baby's about 5 months to use outside?

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I feel sloppy in my clothes...? I can't buy expensive clothes as I am a teenager with no money. I usually buy clothes on sale and clearance or at thrift stores. At the time I really like the clothes that I buy but then when I go to look in my closet to get dressed I don't really like anything in my closet to wear. At school I wear a uniform. Our uniform is jeans and uniform shirts. I even feel sloppy in my uniform because even a small shirt is too big and baggy on me and my sweatshirt makes my neck disappear... I am short so my jeans are usually a little too long. I also like baby doll tops but those combined with my long flare jeans make me feel sloppy. Also the sleeves on all of my long sleeved shirts usually covers my hands. I sometimes wear cargo pants and such and then I feel even more sloppy. I am a jeans and t shirt girl and I don't like to wear skirts and dresses and such. I also don't like to follow trends. Like I don't like leggings and skinny jeans.... I have NO money for clothes right now. I just turned 16 but I can't get a job until summer. Right now I have my uniform, 2 pairs of jeans (only one that I really like), some t shirts, some sweatshirts, some baby dolls tops, some tanks to layers with, and some other pants (cargo pants, camo pants...) Any suggestions?? Thanks!! I am not that short, I am 5'3!! Trust me I have asked for a budget from my parents for clothes and it turns into a big argument about how we don't have any money. I also don't get an allowance!! I know how to sew but I can't hem jeans because of the material won't work with my sewing machine and I can't hem shirt sleeves or make shirts shorter because with stretchy materiel like shirts are made out of will bunch and not lay flat after is it sewn!!

I'm 19 weeks pregnant is it too soon to start baby shopping? Am i just baby crazy? My boyfriend thinks that i need to slow down on baby shopping. Before i got pregnant i had almost everything but the crib, matress, baby bath, bouncy seat and changing table, and no clothes at all. his sister had a little girl and was getting rid of all her stuff, she kept everything clean, so im almost set with clothes for the first year now. she had a summer baby so i have been buying clearance sleeper things. with the long arms and the feet things, the long onsies pretty much. then i bought 8 bottels. some bibs and a pack of newborn onsies and since im only 19 weeks he says i need to slow down on buying things... the way i see it id rather get it all done now, then have to worry about it at 7 or 8 months pregnant. or am i just going baby crazy?

Has anyone used DNA testing to find out the sex of their fetus? I've bought an early fetal sex testing kit that uses the mother's blood to test for fetal DNA. It's called "Pink or Blue" and it's made by a company called Consumer Genetics. I don't have the results back yet- I'm just curious if anyone else out there has used this test, and if your results were correct? They claim it's over 95% accurate. I'm at about 12 weeks pregnant now, will be sending the blood sample off today! I don't have a preference for boy or girl, either is fine with me, I just really want to know! I'd love to be able to go clearance-rack shopping for my baby and know what to buy! The selection of relatively gender-neutral baby clothing and supplies is shockingly small... I've been having anxiety attacks every time I try to start planning my nursery, or shopping for anything baby, I'm hoping finding out the sex will help me get past my anxiety over all the decisions I must make about this stuff! A large part of my anxiety is a feeling that I'll buy something, then when I find out the sex of the baby, I will wish I'd bought something different. The pregnancy hormones are making this silly concern feel like a life-or-death problem!!! Edited to add: I'm not asking your opinion about my decision to use this test. If you have not actually used this test, I don't care to hear from you! I am seeking first-hand accounts from people who used the test, I want to know if it was accurate for you or not, and if it was not accurate, were you successful in getting your money refunded? People: It has been scientifically proven that the FETUS'S DNA IS FOUND IN THE MOTHER'S BLOOD STREAM. This isn't a theory, it's a fact. The ability to find fetal DNA in the mother's blood was conclusively proven more than 5 years ago. I did not ask if you THINK it's possible, I know it's scientifically possible and not that hard to do!!! I asked if you have ever had the test done on yourself. I don't want you opinions, I want firsthand accounts from people who actually used the test and got results. Don't you people read???

Do i over buy for my goddaughter? My friend who i worked with for about 6 mo got pregnant and i was there when she found out she was pregnant, when the father dumped her, when she almost had a miscarriage and when she got fired from her internship so i went through alot with her and i help her get maternity clothes. Well she had a little girl who is the most precious little girl and i am the godmother of her daughter and i buy most of clothes and try to help her out as much as i can and she tells me everyday how much i have helped her and how she couldn't of done it with out me. I'll just pick up clothes cause they are cute and are on clearance or sale. I have friend who says she doesn't need me to do it and i shouldn't help her out and the baby is just a baby and should get support from me. This friend has told me this on more than one occasion and her and the baby's mom don't like each other its mostly the friend. the babies mom thinks shes jealous of my relationship with her and the baby. btw the other friend hates it when i have other friend and is a very controlling , demanding, and likes to put others down when it doesn't benefit her. My friend is a single mom and i work for a major discount retailer and i get a discount so i think that my way that i can help her out cause i know its tough

Any good stories about kids needing a certain thing because "Every" kid in school has it? Ok so when I was in middle school/high school (8-10 grade were the worst). I remember I could not leave the house to got to school without my hair straightened and make up on (not a lot just the normal teen makeup). I remember I used to buy those stupid (and a big waste of money) holster clothes/coach purses etc .... Now I can not believe how stupid i was, i guess most teens go through that. I felt like i needed all those stupid things everyone else had. Now I graduated several years ago and i barely straighten my hair anymore, i only occasionally straighten it. Now i just wash it and leave my natural waves. I also don't obsess with the makeup any more, i just put some mascara and dab a itty bitty bit of foundation on and i am out the door. I just can not believe at how self conscious i used to be. i never needed all that other crap that i used to think i needed. I look just as fine in a $8 shirt from Marshalls/Walmart/Ross than a shiiitty material $35 dollar shirt from stores like holster/abercrombie etc... Don't get me wrong sometimes when im in the mall i may stop in holster and look in the clearance section and find a good deal on a shirt or something but i don't obsess 'over the name' like i used to and i will never spend $30 dollars on a shirt again, unless i need a special shirt or outfit for a special occasion. Now that i think about it, i (and basically every person in my school) bought the clothes because of the name. I remember every girl had a coach purse and i didn't and i basicaly begged my mom for one and she got me it. Now that I think about it, why the hell did i want a purse that had c's all over it?? And why did i want a bag that said "Coach"?? Coach is the average seating on an airplane, i think it would make more sense if i bought a bag that said first class lol. Anyways I just wanted to hear any parents stories about how there kids were like me and just needed a stupid/pointless/expensive/cheap made item, just because every other kid had it. Now when im looking back i wish i punched myself in the face and quit being a baby about the whole situation. Any good stories?

Ex wont allow me to move with the kids, what can i do? My girls are 8 and 2.5 years. I am divorced (for 1.5 years), both my kids are by the same father. My ex cheated on me and is now still with the woman, they are engaged and they just had a baby together. Please don't anyone say i am bitter or resentful, i went through ALL of those emotions after the divorce, as it has been a VERY hard past 2 years for me! I am finally feeling OK and just focusing on my girls. Now my problem is that "situations" are arising with their dad and his fiance. One being that i have heard on numerous occasions that SHE spanks my youngest. Of course i hear this from my 8 year old, and i have no proof! I've talked to my ex about it and he makes excuses. He doesn't spank them, so i find it disrespectful that she would put her hands on my child like that! The problem is that she is left alone with my youngest a lot, while my oldest is in school and their dad is "busy" even though he doesn't work and doesn't pay child support. Yes, i call child support and let them know he's not paying, i keep up on it. He's had two warrents and been arrested once and he still doesn't pay...allthough he claims that he does better than i do with the kids. I don't send them with clothes, he doesn't want them, he buys his own brand name stuff for the kids, what he's throwing out is the stuff i send them in and then he sends them home in his old/nasty stuff that he bought the kids and they've already worn, and he claims it's still better than the stuff i buy!! Another problem is that they undermine me! They talk about the clothes i buy, the way the kids hair is done, etc. They think they can do much better. My friend (who is super close to my kids) bought my youngest some sandals, $2 at Target on clearance, but she knew i could use the help! She wore them over to her dad's house and he threw them away, all while putting them down "who dresses their child like this, not in my house!" As told by 8 year old. They have done the same thing with numerous thing i buy (with ALL my money since he hasn't paid child support!)! He will keep them past his designated COURT ordered days, just up and KEEPS them and i can't do anything about it because he stays with his fiance and i don't know where she stays! His address with the courts is his Grandma's address but he doesn't stay there, ever! Now i hear, from my 8 year old, that since his fiance had the baby, they took my 2.5 year old's car seat out of the car because apparently everyone is too squished with 2 car seats in the car, so she strapped my 2.5 year old in with just a seat belt! She has an 8 year old son from a previous relationship, so there is FOUR kids they have to take place and a CAR, so obviously there is another issue of 2 kids needing to share a seat belt! By the way, the law in our states that a child has to be in a harnessed car seat until 4 years old! He doesn't talk to me with respect, he's immature about everything. I can't have an adult conversation with him with an argument and his finance wont speak to me. She's very ghetto and thinks that i'm in the wrong because when my youngest was conceived he was her "boyfriend" but he was still my HUSBAND! Yes, i had sex with my husband trying to keep my family together! I am only mentioning this part so you can understand why is impossible to have an adult convo with this man and his fiance! Now i have this opportunity to go to another state and have a fresh start. His parents live there and want to help me and be a part of their Grand-children's lives. I can go to a school and get a better job down there! My ex wont let me leave! Now he's talking about trying to get 50/50 placement of the kids! I feel stuck because the only thing i have is my 8 year old telling me things. Yes i was calling the police when he wasn't bringing the kids home, but the cops can't do anything besides write up a complaint, they wont go get my children! I just fear for them, as he's not mature and isn't making good choices benefit our kids. If he did he'd understand *I* need to move in order to provide a better life for them! He isn't helping, so i am doing it alone, i have to do what is best for my kids! I'm not trying to keep him from the kids, i know he loves them and they love him, i told him we can work out an agreement, but he wont work with me. Is there ANYTHING i can do? Please help! They are too young to make a decision like that, it needs to be in the child's best interest! He doesn't have a job so there is nothing to garnish.

I feel sloppy in my clothes...? I can't buy expensive clothes as I am a teenager with no money. I usually buy clothes on sale and clearance or at thrift stores. At the time I really like the clothes that I buy but then when I go to look in my closet to get dressed I don't really like anything in my closet to wear. I am short so my jeans are usually a little too long. I also like baby doll tops but those combined with my long flare jeans make me feel sloppy. Also the sleeves on all of my long sleeved shirts usually covers my hands. I sometimes wear cargo pants and such and then I feel even more sloppy. I am a jeans and t shirt girl and I don't like to wear skirts and dresses and such. I also don't like to follow trends. Like I don't like leggings and skinny jeans.... Any suggestions?? Thanks!! I don't like super flare jeans, but I do like a little bit of flare or boot cut jeans and I am not that short I am 5'3 I just turned 16 and I am planning to get a job by next summer at least!! I have absolutely NO money!!

CHEAP new baby gift ideas? So my teacher is having a baby in May. I REALLY want to get her a gift, she's one of my favorite teachers. She isn't finding out if it is a girl or a boy though. I love shopping for baby clothes, but I'm sure she'll get enough of that :) I have a really small budget, like $15 all together. And I don't just want to get one thing. I was thinking of going to the Dollar Tree & getting a basket of like blankets, some little books, some pacifiers, bottle brushes, a little bath toy, & a few other little things. Do you think this would be OK or should I not go to the dollar store? Is that TOO cheap? I don't want to look like the cheap student who doesn't have $$ (even though that is what I am) LOL I just want to get her a good gift. Any recommendations? Should I maybe just get an outfit or 2 on clearance at walmart or target? :)

What did i do to my friend? This is my friend: --She's fourteen, but she nevers speds any of her money on clothes or makeup; she's a middle class family but all her shirts are from museums or volunteer organizations, and all her pants are clearance-rack yoga pants. The only shoes she wears are These brown shoes she calls her "safari shoes". And she never, ever wears makeup. She really hates it. -She seems to have a real connection with animals. She actually talks to them; not baby talk or anything, but like they'd really talk back. -She's fourteen and has only ever heard of J-14. All her walls are covered with posters from her huge collection of National Geographics. -While most teenage girls want to be an actress at our school, she wants to be a traveller/zoologist. -At our school, going wih the flow is the cool thing; she's totally cool with sharing her own opinion, which I always opposite the populars girls'. -She loves science and homework. -Instead of sleeping in, she volunteers a lot on weekends. -She's not shy about living her family and siblings. -She's outdoorsy. She gets bullied a lot, with people calling her a "nerd" or "weirdo", etc., and a while ago one of the popular girls came up to me said that I could be popular if I "broke up" with her in front of the whole eighth grade, and thinking she would understand, I embarrassed her by yelling at her for being a physco and poured milk on her favorite "Save the Ocean" T-shirts. She turned red and her eyes got watery, but she just said, "I'd say "see you when I'm your boss, but I'm not planning on working at a meth house." Now I've stopped seeing her outside. She still wears her clothes, but she is less outspoken, and I saw her doing homework in the bathroom (where she has to eat lunch now), rather than come to school with it done (like she used to). She moved to the back of the class in all of her classes, even science. I've never her seen her react to bullying like this. What did I do?

Is my friend crazy or was it me? These are the things that are off with my friend; --She's fourteen, but she nevers speds any of her money on clothes or makeup; she's a middle class family but all her shirts are from museums or volunteer organizations, and all her pants are clearance-rack yoga pants. The only shoes she wears are These brown shoes she calls her "safari shoes". And she never, ever wears makeup. She really hates it. -She seems to have a real connection with animals. She actually talks to them; not baby talk or anything, but like they'd really talk back. -She's fourteen and has only ever heard of J-14. All her walls are covered with posters from her huge collection of National Geographics. -While most teenage girls want to be an actress at our school, she wants to be a traveller/zoologist. -At our school, going wih the flow is the cool thing; she's totally cool with sharing her own opinion, which I always opposite the populars girls'. -She loves science and homework. -Instead of sleeping in, she volunteers a lot on weekends. -She's not shy about living her family and siblings. -She's outdoorsy. She gets bullied a lot, with people calling her a "nerd" or "weirdo", etc., and today one of the popular girls came up to me said that I could be popular if I "broke up" with her in front of the whole eighth grade, and thinking she would understand, I embarrassed her by yelling at her for being a physco and poured milk on her favorite "Save the Ocean" T-shirts. She turned red and her eyes got watery, but she just said, "I'd say "see you when I'm your boss, but I'm not planning on working at a meth house." I know I wasn't particularly nice, but is it just me or is that rude?

Who's rude: me or my ex friend? These are the things that are off with my friend; --She's fourteen, but she nevers speds any of her money on clothes or makeup; she's a middle class family but all her shirts are from museums or volunteer organizations, and all her pants are clearance-rack yoga pants. The only shoes she wears are These brown shoes she calls her "safari shoes". And she never, ever wears makeup. She really hates it. -She seems to have a real connection with animals. She actually talks to them; not baby talk or anything, but like they'd really talk back. -She's fourteen and has only ever heard of J-14. All her walls are covered with posters from her huge collection of National Geographics. -While most teenage girls want to be an actress at our school, she wants to be a traveller/zoologist. -At our school, going wih the flow is the cool thing; she's totally cool with sharing her own opinion, which I always opposite the populars girls'. -She loves science and homework. -Instead of sleeping in, she volunteers a lot on weekends. -She's not shy about living her family and siblings. -She's outdoorsy. She gets bullied a lot, with people calling her a "nerd" or "weirdo", etc., and today one of the popular girls came up to me said that I could be popular if I "broke up" with her in front of the whole eighth grade, and thinking she would understand, I embarrassed her by yelling at her for being a physco and poured milk on her favorite "Save the Ocean" T-shirts. She turned red and her eyes got watery, but she just said, "I'd say "see you when I'm your boss, but I'm not planning on working at a meth house." I know I wasn't particularly nice, but is it just me or is what SHE said rude?

Is my BFF a weirdo? Should we be friends? These are the things that are off with my friend; --She's fourteen, but she nevers speds any of her money on clothes or makeup; she's a middle class family but all her shirts are from museums or volunteer organizations, and all her pants are clearance-rack yoga pants. The only shoes she wears are These brown shoes she calls her "safari shoes". And she never, ever wears makeup. She really hates it. -She seems to have a real connection with animals. She actually talks to them; not baby talk or anything, but like they'd really talk back. -She's fourteen and has only ever heard of J-14. All her walls are covered with posters from her huge collection of National Geographics. -While most teenage girls want to be an actress at our school, she wants to be a traveller/zoologist. -At our school, going wih the flow is the cool thing; she's totally cool with sharing her own opinion, which I always opposite the populars girls'. -She loves science and homework. -Instead of sleeping in, she volunteers a lot on weekends. -She's not shy about living her family and siblings. -She's outdoorsy. She gets bullied a lot, with people calling her a "nerd" or "weirdo", etc. Should I feel bad for agreeing with them? Should I end our friendship? Also, I've asked this before and someone said *I* have a lot more to lose/gain from the friendship. What do I have to lose or gain?

Is there anything wrong with my friend? Is she's just unique? Okay--these are te thugs I think are weird about my friend: -She's fourteen, but she nevers speds any of her money on clothes or makeup; she's a middle class family but all her shirts are from museums or volunteer organizations, and all her pants are clearance-rack yoga pants. The only shoes she wears are These brown shoes she calls her "safari shoes". And she never, ever wears makeup. She really hates it. -She seems to have a real connection with animals. She actually talks to them; not baby talk or anything, but like they'd really talk back. -She's fourteen and has only ever heard of J-14. All her walls are covered with posters from her huge collection of National Geographics. -While most teenage girls want to be an actress at our school, she wants to be a traveller/zoologist. -At our school, going wih the flow is the cool thing; she's totally cool with sharing her own opinion, which I always opposite the populars girls'. -She loves science and homework. -Instead of sleeping in, she volunteers a lot on weekends. -She's not shy about living her family and siblings. -She's outdoorsy. She gets bullied a lot, with people calling her a "nerd" or "weirdo", etc. Should I feel bad for agreeing with them? Should I end our friendship?

Is my friend just unique? These are the things that are off with my friend; --She's fourteen, but she nevers speds any of her money on clothes or makeup; she's a middle class family but all her shirts are from museums or volunteer organizations, and all her pants are clearance-rack yoga pants. The only shoes she wears are These brown shoes she calls her "safari shoes". And she never, ever wears makeup. She really hates it. -She seems to have a real connection with animals. She actually talks to them; not baby talk or anything, but like they'd really talk back. -She's fourteen and has only ever heard of J-14. All her walls are covered with posters from her huge collection of National Geographics. -While most teenage girls want to be an actress at our school, she wants to be a traveller/zoologist. -At our school, going wih the flow is the cool thing; she's totally cool with sharing her own opinion, which I always opposite the populars girls'. -She loves science and homework. -Instead of sleeping in, she volunteers a lot on weekends. -She's not shy about living her family and siblings. -She's outdoorsy. She gets bullied a lot, with people calling her a "nerd" or "weirdo", etc. Should I feel bad for agreeing with them? Should I end our friendship? Also, I've asked this before and someone said *I* have a lot more to lose/gain from the friendship. What do I have to lose or gain?

How to cope with causing someone to kill themselves? --She's fourteen, but she nevers speds any of her money on clothes or makeup; she's a middle class family but all her shirts are from museums or volunteer organizations, and all her pants are clearance-rack yoga pants. The only shoes she wears are These brown shoes she calls her "safari shoes". And she never, ever wears makeup. She really hates it. -She seems to have a real connection with animals. She actually talks to them; not baby talk or anything, but like they'd really talk back. -She's fourteen and has only ever heard of J-14. All her walls are covered with posters from her huge collection of National Geographics. -While most teenage girls want to be an actress at our school, she wants to be a traveller/zoologist. -At our school, going wih the flow is the cool thing; she's totally cool with sharing her own opinion, which I always opposite the populars girls'. -She loves science and homework. -Instead of sleeping in, she volunteers a lot on weekends. -She's not shy about living her family and siblings. She gets bullied a lot, with people calling her a "nerd" or "weirdo", etc., and a while ago one of the popular girls came up to me said that I could be popular if I "broke up" with her in front of the whole eighth grade, and thinking she would understand, I embarrassed her by yelling at her for being a physco and poured milk on her favorite "Save the Ocean" T-shirts. She turned red and her eyes got watery, but she just said, "I'd say "see you when I'm your boss, but I'm not planning on working at a meth house." Now I've stopped seeing her outside. She is less outspoken, and I saw her doing homework in the bathroom (where she has to eat lunch now), rather than come to school with it done (like she used to). I had all that typed out yesterday. Today, I was pulled out of class an given a letter by a teary eyed counselor. My friend committed suicide. My letter just said, "why?" I was her only friend. How do I cope?

How to cope with being the cause of a dear friends suicide? --She's fourteen, but she nevers speds any of her money on clothes or makeup; she's a middle class family but all her shirts are from museums or volunteer organizations, and all her pants are clearance-rack yoga pants. The only shoes she wears are These brown shoes she calls her "safari shoes". And she never, ever wears makeup. She really hates it. -She seems to have a real connection with animals. She actually talks to them; not baby talk or anything, but like they'd really talk back. -She's fourteen and has only ever heard of J-14. All her walls are covered with posters from her huge collection of National Geographics. -While most teenage girls want to be an actress at our school, she wants to be a traveller/zoologist. -At our school, going wih the flow is the cool thing; she's totally cool with sharing her own opinion, which I always opposite the populars girls'. -She loves science and homework. -Instead of sleeping in, she volunteers a lot on weekends. -She's not shy about living her family and siblings. She gets bullied a lot, with people calling her a "nerd" or "weirdo", etc., and a while ago one of the popular girls came up to me said that I could be popular if I "broke up" with her in front of the whole eighth grade, and thinking she would understand, I embarrassed her by yelling at her for being a physco and poured milk on her favorite "Save the Ocean" T-shirts. She turned red and her eyes got watery, but she just said, "I'd say "see you when I'm your boss, but I'm not planning on working at a meth house." Now I've stopped seeing her outside. She is less outspoken, and I saw her doing homework in the bathroom (where she has to eat lunch now), rather than come to school with it done (like she used to). I had all that typed out yesterday. Today, I was pulled out of class an given a letter by a teary eyed counselor. My friend committed suicide. My letter just said, "why?" I was her only friend, so I feel bad, but how do I cope?